Thursday, December 30, 2010

About my e-mail autoresponse

I've set my e-mail accounts to send you an auto-response in service of connection, so you can know your e-mail landed in my inbox.

I receive more emails than I can respond to in the amount of time I would like. If you don't receive a response from me in the time-frame that suits you, I invite you to support me in responding to you by re-sending your e-mail.

I am always aiming for brevity to support respect for others' priorities as well as my body which is limited in its capacity to sit and type. If what I write is not received as expressing care, please write again.

You might also like to read this post about short e-mails.

I'm open to hearing what it is like for you to read this explanation.

Be well,


Wednesday, December 29, 2010

Did I send you a brief email message?

I value the finite time and attention that we all have available to us. I also find conversations to be rich and meaningful.

That said, I have a lot of email coming into my inbox. Maybe you do, too.

I am always aiming for brevity to respect others' priorities and to support my body which is limited in its capacity to sit and type. If what I write is not received as expressing care, please write again. My hope is that a timely, concise response respects you as much or more than a longer one because it is giving you the information you need quickly and more easily; you aren’t waiting for me to answer and don’t have to wade through a bunch of information to figure out what’s going on.

My brevity is intended to ensure I don’t bottleneck our conversation. I’m happy to have deeper connection and extended conversations. Please continue the conversation if it’s appropriate, and feel free to write in whatever length and style that feels comfortable for you. I don’t want my anti-bottlenecking practice to bottleneck you.

Also, I am open to receiving feedback on what it is like to have read this message, or to have received a brief message from me.

Be well,


PS If you’re curious about where I got my ideas for effective email management, and from whom I stole much of the wording for this post, check out as well as these other free resources and this blog post

Monday, December 13, 2010

Telecourse: Integrating Nonviolent Communication and Focusing

Deep and Lasting Transformation of Consciousness through NVC and Inner
Relationship Focusing 

A Telecourse with Gina Cenciose and Shulamit Day Berlevtov starting February 8th 2011.

There will be a free Introductory call with Gina and Shulamit on Tuesday
evening January 18th 2011, 7 pm to 8:30 pm Eastern time. Please contact shulamit at shula dot ca for more information or to register.

*In integrating NVC and Inner Relationship Focusing skills you will:*

• Learn how to be truly and deeply present with what is alive in you
moment by moment through any part of your life

• Connect with even the most stuck emotional reactions so they make sense
and release you

• Make clearer choices to respond to life as your whole self

• Make contact with your bodily felt senses, which are doorways into fresh
energy and new possibilities

• Learn a step by step PRESENCE PROCESS to embody radical empathy, radical acceptance of what is, and therefor open to real change and inner growth

To register:
* *


Inner Relationship Focusing (IRF) is a process for emotional healing and
accessing positive life-forward energy. It has been developed by Ann Weiser
Cornell and Barbara McGavin primarily out of their own practice, based on
the Focusing work of Eugene Gendlin, with some influences from a number of other methods. (Cornell and McGavin, 2002.) Above all, the practice of IRF has been developed over 18 years of intensive work with clients who were engaging with difficult issues such as action blocks, addiction (primarily eating disorders), depressed and anxious states, and experiences of low self-worth. In addition to these types of issues, IRF has been developed with people who wanted to make decisions that were appropriate for them and to feel more confident in their own inner sense of rightness about their next life-forward steps. Despite its application to difficult life issues, IRF is not a method that is aimed at particular problem areas, but is
adaptable to any issue that a client has, including relationship issues and
even the suffering caused by pain and physical symptoms.

Like the Focusing method from which it emerges, IRF can be taught to people as a self-growth skill and can be done in pairs in a ‘peer counseling’
format. Networks of people doing IRF with each other in ‘Focusing
partnership’ have arisen in a number of places in the world, and since the
process can be done by telephone, partners do not need to be in the same
physical location in order to work with each other. Professionally, IRF can
be used by therapists, counselors, and other healing professionals in
conjunction with other modalities, and it can also be done as a stand-alone
practice by an ‘IRF Guide.

With Inner Relationship Focusing, you go directly to the place where you
have a deep body knowing about a situation. There is wisdom in our body-mind which we tend to ignore, partly because our modern, fast-paced,
head-oriented culture is just not set up that way.

This class is an introductory (Level One) class in Inner Relationship
Focusing. The curriculum will be presented in the light of NVC
consciousness, informed by the principles and practices that NVC nourishes.

We will learn to experience ourselves, our inner voices of criticism,
judgment, shame and blame, as well as our needs, freshly and from a more
holistic angle.

Inner Relationship Focusing gives us the capacity to see clearly what is
happening in the moment, to turn towards it and to accept it with love.
During this program, we will explore the Nonviolent Communication and Inner Relationship practices of empathy; and compassionate awareness that
cultivate acceptance, allowing us to genuinely embrace ourselves and each
other. You will have the opportunity to practice being with the parts of
your life that are judged and unforgiven. The workshop will include talks,
guided meditations called Focusing attunements, experiential exercises, and

You will leave with a radical new approach to self-acceptance, and a new way to connect to all the levels of life happening inside of you, that you may
not be currently aware of.

Class Outline:

Each class will include a remembering (focusing attunement), 25-45 minute
teaching with feedback and questions, and small group practice, along with
harvesting and extended check out. Empathy buddies and Focusing buddies
between class sessions will also be included.

Course Schedule:

*A six-month program which meets every other Tuesday (12 sessions)*

*12 Tuesdays, February 8 - July 12, 2011 
4:00 - 6:00 PM PST / PDT*

Requested NVC Experience: Beginner.* This includes
anyone who has 16 hours or more of NVC training and has a grasp of the NVC basics. The basics of NVC will not be covered. Focusing experience is not requested; anyone with zero or more Focusing training is welcome to register for the course.

*Fee: $350.00 USD*

*All registrants receive access to all recordings of the course.*

*About Shulamit Day Berlevtov*

I support individuals in transforming what is painful and difficult into
meaning, space and new life. I am a spirit-body-mind coach, have passed my assessment for certification as a trainer in Nonviolent Communication, am a certified Focusing teacher and guide and a certified and registered Kripalu yoga teacher. I also offer reiki and the Tapas Acupressure TechniqueR.

Since experiencing a serious illness in 2002, my commitment to compassionate authenticity and total nonviolence for myself and others has framed my spiritual and life practice and political action.

*About Gina Cenciose*

Gina has been a workshop leader, group facilitator (Certified community
building trainer and Restorative Circle facilitator) and teacher for 15
years. She has been teaching NVC full time for 7 years, and has trained NVC
trainers in year long to 3-year long NVC programs for 5 years. She leads 6
different yearlong Integration programs every year, and has co created and
facilitated NVC year long programs with other colleagues in 22 different
programs so far... She is certified with the CNVC and works as a certifying
coordinator with them.