Monday, May 17, 2010

The 'Why', 'What' and 'How' of Restorative Circles. An interview with Dominic Barter

The 'Why', 'What' and 'How' of Restorative Circles. An interview with Dominic Barter and Information on Restorative Circles facilitator training in Ottawa, June 3-8, 2010.

An Introduction to Restorative Circles with Dominic Barter from Restorative Circles on Vimeo.

Restorative Circles Introduction and Facilitation Modules

Ottawa, Ontario June 3-6 and 7-8, 2010

To register contact the CICR

http://www.cicr-icrc.ca/pages/en/training/register.php


Canadian Institute for Conflict Resolution

in partnership with

NVC Ottawa-Outaouais

Presents

Restorative Circle
Building Compassionate Conflict Resolution Systems

June 3 to 6, 2010

Plenary in English: consecutive translation as needed.

Documents and breakout groups will be in choice of English or French.

Restorative Circles allow individuals and communities to establish connection, discover meaning and recover power on profound levels. They create a forum for reaching agreements that help sustain effective and nurturing relationships both personally and within society.

Circles have developed within the RJ (Restorative Justice) movement, which in recent decades has adapted ways for communities to promote responsibility and healing. Rethinking justice, and engaging to consciously build whole-system responses to people’s well-being, has opened up revolutionary possibilities for furthering a culture of peace.

Restorative Training

June 3rd, the first evening, is gratis and open to all friends & families: an intro to 5 pre-requisites for creating RC in communities.

The next 3 days dynamically explore the key assumptions underlying the RC model which Dominic Barter has been sharing all over Brazil for years.


Participants may experience loosening of closed ideas, uncovering of human motives behind painful choices and discovery of effective strategies to meet pressing needs. They will partake first-hand in the RC process, with step-by-step integration of both RC & NVC skills.

NVC is a skill which affirms that we, human beings, share common, universal values (such as needs for community and respect), as well as a desire to see these needs met. By focusing on these shared values, and then moving on to strategies, there can be found solutions which are more satisfying, empowering and sustainable.

NVC is based on the premise that each of us can access our remarkable inner resources if we are given empathy, and that we all fare much better if we know how to do this in collaboration.

Gina Cenciose

Gina has been a practitioner of nonviolence and conflict resolution for many years.


She is a certified community-building facilitator, a certified trainer for the Center for NVC and a Restorative Circle (RC) facilitator. She has been sharing NVC full-time for seven years in prisons, hospitals and non-profits.


She currently runs seven year-long NVC Integration programs, and also mentors others through the Center’s certification process.


Gina offers and teaches NVC-based mediation in families, businesses & groups of all kinds.

A long-time colleague of Dominic’s, Gina has been facilitating Restorative Circles in different environments since learning this wonderful model directly from him.

Valérie Lanctôt-Bédard

Valérie has been teaching NVC since 2003. She intervenes in a variety of environments – including all kinds of organizations at work, couples and families and therapeutic relations in health centers, where she offers empathy in dealing with anger, beliefs, grief, healing, change, parental skills and social activism.

She also works with individuals on their life path, sharing her 15 years of experience as an entrepreneur, facilitator and therapist.

She is a certified trainer of the Center for NVC and co-founder of the Québec Circle of Certified Trainers.

For more information on both trainers:

www.cnvc.org www.spiralis.ca

www.facilitatechange.org

www.nvc-transformation-cnv.com

www.Mainenvcnetwork.org

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$550, 00 plus GST

$495, 00 before May 6th plus GST

$275, 00 for students plus GST – Thursday night free

Location: Saint Paul University, 223 Main Street, Ottawa, ON K1S 1C4

Time

Thursday Evening: 7:00 pm to 9:30 pm

Friday: 9:00 am to 5:00 pm

Saturday: 9:00 am to 5:00 pm

Sunday: 9:00 am to 3:30 pm

For those with RJ background: experience how inserting NVC's ABA-type listening can enhance resolution sustainability.

For those with NVC background: experience how deepening NVC dialogue can empower facilitation of circles.

For those wanting to contribute to ‘peace’: experience the immediate ‘vigor', in your community, of this unique combination of Alternate Dispute Resolution skills!

http://www.cicr-icrc.ca/media/Documents/NCVOttawa.JPGNVC Ottawa-Outaouais is a non-profit network offering NonViolent Communication-based facilitation, mediation, practice groups and teaching in businesses and communities.

Restorative Circle II


Canadian Institute for Conflict Resolution

in partnership with

NVC Ottawa-Outaouais

Presents

Restorative Circle II
Building Compassionate Conflict Resolution Systems

June 7 & 8, 2010

and

October 1 & 2, 2010

Plenary in English: consecutive translation as needed.

Documents and breakout groups will be in choice of English or French.

Restorative Circle allows individuals and communities to establish connection, discover meaning and recover power on profound levels. They create a forum for reaching agreements that help sustain effective and nurturing relationships both personally and within society.

Circles have developed within the RJ (Restorative Justice) movement, which in recent decades has adapted ways for communities to promote responsibility and healing. Rethinking justice, and engaging to consciously build whole-system responses to people’s well-being, has opened up revolutionary possibilities for furthering a culture of peace.

Dominic Barter, the certified trainer in charge of the RJ project for the Center for NVC, has created a wonderfully empowering & sustainable restorative process!

www.nvctraining.com/media/GC/TP-key-diffs-200812

http://oorcfn.blogspot.com/

Restorative Training

These two days dynamically deepen the key assumptions underlying the RC model which Dominic Barter has long been sharing all over America.


They are the next steps to developing the skills required to facilitate an RC after participating in a 3-day Intro. Because everyone comes from a different background and level of expertise, Dominic recommends a total of 9 days of training in this particular model of facilitation. Participants will learn to hone their awareness of group dynamics and they will specifically evolve:

° Deep clarity around the whole process and each of its steps,
° Self-awareness and self-care,
° Co-facilitation with other people,
° Flexibility and creativity,
° Interrupting and focusing to track meaning,
° Staying connected with the RC intention throughout, while skilfully intervening in a group,
° Empathic listening and guessing,
° Making clear observations,
° Identifying a doable action plan within a specific time frame.

This 2-day experience will be highly interactive with demonstration, practice, individual coaching and group debriefing of each step.

Gina Cenciose

Gina has been a practitioner of nonviolence and conflict resolution for many years.


She is a certified community-building facilitator, a certified trainer for the Center for NVC and a Restorative Circle (RC) facilitator. She has been sharing NVC full-time for seven years in prisons, hospitals and non-profits.


She currently runs seven year-long NVC Integration programs, and also mentors others through the Center’s certification process.


Gina offers and teaches NVC-based mediation in families, businesses & groups of all kinds.

A long-time colleague of Dominic’s, Gina has been facilitating Restorative Circles in different environments since learning this wonderful model directly from him.

Valérie Lanctôt-Bédard

Valérie has been teaching NVC since 2003. She intervenes in a variety of environments – including all kinds of organizations at work, couples and families and therapeutic relations in health centers, where she offers empathy in dealing with anger, beliefs, grief, healing, change, parental skills and social activism.

She also works with individuals on their life path, sharing her 15 years of experience as an entrepreneur, facilitator and therapist.

She is a certified trainer of the Center for NVC and co-founder of the Québec Circle of Certified Trainers.

For more information on both trainers:

www.cnvc.org www.spiralis.ca

www.facilitatechange.org

www.nvc-transformation-cnv.com

www.Mainenvcnetwork.org

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$375, 00 plus GST

$350, 00 before May 6th plus GST

$200, 00 for students plus GST

Location: Saint Paul University, 223 Main Street, Ottawa, ON K1S 1C4

Time

9:00 am to 5:00 pm

For those with RJ background: experience how inserting NVC's ABA-type listening can enhance resolution sustainability.

For those with NVC background: experience how deepening NVC dialogue can empower facilitation of circles.

For those wanting to contribute to ‘peace’: experience the immediate ‘vigor', in your community, of this unique combination of Alternate Dispute Resolution skills!

NVC Ottawa-Outaouais is a non-profit network offering NonViolent Communication-based facilitation, mediation, practice groups and teaching in businesses and communities.


Saturday, May 15, 2010

Intrdoction to Felt sensing and the Inner Relationship (Focusing) for Nonviolent Communication

Dear friends,

Quick reference:

What: Intro to Felt-sensing and the Inner Relationship (Focusing) for Nonviolent Communication phone course

When: Mondays, July 5 – August 2, 1:00 – 3:30 p.m. Eastern

Cost: 375 in the currency of your country of residence plus purchase of manual from http://www.focusingresources.com/materials/manuals.html.

Pre-requisite: one 1-hour guided Focusing session (see below for details)

Registration deadline: June 15, 2010

To register: e-mail Shulamit at shula dot ca or call 613-868-9642



In NVC we talk about "the shift" that comes from connecting with needs. With Focusing, we can learn a reliable way to connect with the inner experiencing that can lead to that shift. In an Introduction to Focusing for NVC, we will learn and apply the basics of Inner Relationship Focusing with an awareness of the NVC process and needs consciousness.

A certified NVC trainer recently said that with Focusing, self-empathy is deepened exponentially. Eugene Gendlin, who brought Focusing to the world, himself said, "No matter what you do, with Focusing, it will go better," and this has definitely been my experience with NVC, and in general. Focusing, Gendlin’s book, used to be on the recommended reading list for certification candidates, which is how I was first introduced to it.

The series will run for 5 weeks on Mondays, July 5th to August 2, 1:00–3:30 p.m. Eastern time. You will be asked to do a 1-hour Focusing partnership exchange with a classmate and some reading as homework each week between classes. Cost is 375 in the currency of your country (AU, CA or US dollars, Euros, UK pounds etc. Please contact me if you would like more information about pricing.) Please be aware you may incur long distance or other charges associated with dialing into the conference line.

Pre-requisite: one 1-hour guided Focusing session. If you book with me, the cost is 35 in the currency of your country. You can also have a session with any other Inner Relationship Focusing teacher, see http://www.focusingresources.com/irf/directory.htm.

Materials: Focusing Student’s and Companion’s Manual, Part 1. Available at http://www.focusingresources.com/materials/manuals.html.

I am a certified Inner Relationship Focusing teacher and guide, and a CNVC-certified trainer candidate. More about me:

· website www.shula.ca

· blog www.shula-yoga.ca (scroll to the very bottom for videos of Gendlin talking about Focusing)

· e-mail shulamit at shula dot ca

· call 613-868-9642 (I'm in the Eastern Canada time zone).

For more about Focusing, see www.focusing.org or www.focusingresources.com.

Looking forward,

Shulamit

Saturday, May 8, 2010

A felt sense: the characteristics of Focusing (video)

Akira Ikemi, Ph.D. (Kobe Japan) presents the characteristics of Focusing, from the 12th International Focusing Conference held in Pforzheim in Germany, 2000.

Monday, May 3, 2010

Cultivating the courage to ask for help

I asked an NVC colleague to give me empathic listening time about a difficult issue. We have an agreement that we are welcome to ask one another for help at any time, and yet I still felt uncomfortable. A part of me still believes asking for help is "taking," and I have no right to "take" without giving back.

My colleague gave me feedback about what it was like to accompany me. From her response, I experienced that asking for help is not only "taking" from someone, it is also giving.

What helps me get in touch with that is the "post-empathic request": would you be willing to tell me how you are affected by being with me in this way?

When I take time to elicit, receive and be affected by the response of the person helping me, it connects me with the flowing of giving and receiving in my body. It’s a physical experience I can call to mind anytime. Taking time to receive it makes it more likely I will remember it.

Making the post-empathic request and receiving the answer gives me the courage to keep asking for help because it supports me in remembering how asking for help can make both our lives more wonderful.

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I offer Nonviolent Communication coaching, introductory and deepening workshops. I also integrate NVC in my practice of holistic psychotherapy. Sessions are available at $75/hr or 3 sessions for $200. For more see www.shula.ca, or contact me at shulamit@shula.ca or 613-868-9642. Follow me on Twitter: Shuliji

Sunday, May 2, 2010

Empty space is sacred space

To follow the way of the listener, you must be empty. Set down, beside you, your feelings, knowledge and know-how. When you are already full, how can there be room for the other person?

In emptiness, the listener responds freely to the fullness of the other,
sensing the movement of life, the subtle ebb and flow of relational depth.
The empty space is a sacred space, if only we can keep it empty.

Rob Foxcroft